Self-doubt can be a natural killer when it comes to achieving our goals and dreams. It’s that nagging little voice in our head that tells us we’re not good enough, smart enough, or talented enough to succeed. It can be detrimental to confidence, but fear not; this article will explore some tips for overcoming self-doubt and building self-confidence.
What is Self Doubt?
Ah, self-doubt—the bane of our existence! It’s that little voice in our heads that tells us we’re not good enough for anything. It’s like a tiny gremlin sitting on our shoulders, whispering negative thoughts in our ears. It’s like a parasite that feeds on our insecurities. It latches onto our thoughts and emotions and sucks the life out of us. It’s like having a frenemy that’s always lurking in the shadows, waiting to pounce on our self-esteem.
But here’s the thing about self-doubt: it’s not real. That’s right, you heard it correctly—self-doubt is a figment of our imagination. It’s a story we tell ourselves based on our past experiences and beliefs. And like any story, it can be rewritten. Self-doubt is just a feeling, and feelings can be changed.
How To Overcome Self Doubt?
Now, we know that overcoming self-doubt is easier said than done. That’s why we’re going to get a bit silly here and suggest some unconventional ways to kick self-doubt to the curb.
#1: The first step is to recognize it for what it is—a liar!
That’s right; self-doubt is a big, fat liar. It tells us we’re not good enough, but in reality, we’re more than enough. We’re badass, amazing human beings with unique talents and skills. So the next time self-doubt tries to rear its ugly head, tell it to take a hike!
#2: Embrace failure.
Failure is not the opposite of success; it’s part of the journey. It’s how we learn and grow as individuals. So, don’t beat yourself up the next time you fail. Instead, use it as an opportunity to learn and improve.
#3: Dance it out.
Put on your favorite song and dance like nobody’s watching (because, let’s be honest, nobody is!). Dancing is a great way to release pent-up emotions and boost your mood. Plus, it’s a fun way to get some exercise.
#4: Write yourself a love letter.
Write down all the things you love about yourself and what makes you unique. When feeling down, read the letter and remind yourself of your worth.
#5: Reframe your thinking.
Instead of focusing on your weaknesses and shortcomings, focus on your strengths and accomplishments. Think about all the times you succeeded in the past, and use that as evidence that you can do it again. As the saying goes, “Believe in yourself and all you are. Know that there is something inside you that is greater than any obstacle.” 
#6: Do something that scares you.
It can be as simple as speaking up in a meeting or as daring as bungee jumping (although we don’t recommend the latter if you’re afraid of heights!). Doing something that scares you proves to yourself that you’re capable of more than you think.
What is Self-Confidence?
Self-confidence is that feeling of trust in your abilities, judgment, and worth. It’s like having a superhero cape, except it’s invisible and always with you. Self-confidence is the foundation for a happy and successful life, which we can all cultivate.
Self-confidence is like having a secret weapon that makes you feel unstoppable. It’s that feeling of knowing that you can handle whatever life throws your way. It’s like having a magic wand that can transform your thoughts and emotions.
But here’s the thing about self-confidence: it’s not something you’re born with; it’s something you build. Self-confidence is a muscle that can be strengthened through practice and experience, and the more you exercise that muscle, the stronger it becomes.
How To Build Self-Confidence?
#1: Recognize your strengths and accomplishments.
Give yourself a pat on the back for everything you’ve achieved in life. Whether it’s getting a degree, starting a business, or raising a family, you’ve accomplished a lot—and those accomplishments are a testament to your abilities and worth.
#2: Embrace your uniqueness.
You’re one of a kind, with your own set of talents, skills, and quirks. Instead of trying to fit in with everyone else, embrace what makes you different—celebrate your individuality and let it shine.
#3: Strike a power pose.
Strike a pose like Wonder Woman (or Superman) and hold it for two minutes. You know the one we’re talking about—hands on hips, chest out, head held high. Research shows that power posing can increase testosterone and decrease cortisol levels, leading to increased confidence.
#4: Give yourself a pep talk.
Talk to yourself like you would talk to your best friend. Encourage yourself, remind yourself of your strengths, and tell yourself you’re awesome.
#5: Become the best version of yourself
You will automatically feel confident if you walk outside with your finances taken care of and your body in the best shape. You will have a smile of confidence that people will notice. Build positive relationships, and that will foster your confidence. Take care of every critical aspect of your life, and your confidence will ascend.
#6: Surround yourself with positive and supportive people.
These people will uplift you when you’re feeling down and remind you of your worth when you doubt yourself.
Now, let’s discuss one of the biggest confidence killers—comparison. We all do it—we compare ourselves to others and end up feeling like we’re not good enough. But here’s the thing: comparison is a losing game. Someone will always be smarter, richer, or more successful than you. So instead of comparing yourself to others, focus on being the best version of yourself. As Oscar Wilde once said, “Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.”
Self-doubt is a real confidence killer, but it doesn’t have to hold you back. By reframing your thinking, adopting unconventional methods to boost your confidence, focusing on being the best version of yourself, and surrounding yourself with positive people, you can overcome self-doubt and build self-confidence. And remember, as comedian Lily Tomlin once said, “I always wanted to be somebody, but now I realize I should have been more specific.”  So go out there and be the best version of yourself—we believe in you!
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- Roberts, Kathrine. “Mother’s Day Highlight at Drop-In.” Claresholm Local Press, Alberta Weekly Newspaper Association, 13 May 2015, p. A.8.